Daughters
I often get asked why I want a girl so badly. For me, it’s not about the cute little ruffle bloomers or the hair bows. It’s not about the pink toenails and overall frill. It’s because of Michael. My father and I don’t have the bubbliest of relationships and more often than not it hurts my soul. I like to think I’m tough and that I don’t care but few things upset me more. The relationship between a father and his daughter is one of the most special there is. A father defines and sets the standards for all men that will ever encounter his daughter. A father makes everything ok. A father becomes a daddy and when that changes and he becomes just a father again, it hurts.
I know Michael will never allow our daughter to feel that hurt. He will be the best father to a boy or a girl but I long for our daughter to feel the bursting love from her daddy. I can’t wait for her to become the most important girl in his life. I dream about watching them smile at each other and the special bond they will have.
That’s why I want to have a girl. So she can have Mike as her superhero.
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And for this same reason, I will marry a man who will love his children just like this, who will never abandon them, or make them think they weren’t worth sticking around. I don’t want that thought to ever cross their mind.
